PF September 25 at 3:45am

Hi Agata! Guess what? I am single again!! The man I was dating decided to breakup because he had issues with his mom not ready to accept me at all. His mom had not even met me, the fact that I didn?t belong to his community, didnt speak his native language, was a year older and had parents who were divorced made his mom dislike me! We are also trying to be friends and he still wants to meet me sometimes and hang out and call me but no "relationship" anymore. Yesterday he even called and told me he misses me. God knows! I was totally bummed and upset.. I am trying to move on and get over it. It?s really difficult. How are you? Did you get that job in America? Take care PF

Agata September 25 at 5:13pm

Oh baby! Why are they all like that?? If only I could get him and kick his ass!! I'm so sorry for you; I know very well how you're feeling :( Wish I could give you a hug.. You should get yourself a European bf, they don't have issues with their moms.. usually. At least he called you.. After my ex left me, I never heard from him that he missed me, instead each time I contacted him he was happy he made the right decision. He also asked me to be his friend, but he treats me like if he had never met me, ignoring me in every possible way, while I can see the contrast how he treats his other (girl) friends. I was going mad when he went to Africa without any preparation, I tried to text him - and it just didn't work. I tried to call him - no connection. I was so fucking worried about that bastard that something might have happened to him. But he simply didn't bother to answer my calls, even that I was calling him like crazy! While he's got his other (girl) friend that he always calls when he's away, not looking at the prices of roaming, and he'd answer her call in the middle of the night at the other end of the world. Now he's back, and he didn't even bother to contact me, not even write me a message. And we're on the same photography forum (where I actually met him), and he's constantly ignoring me (while chatting to his other, more important (girl) friends, and praising their photos). And this actually hurts me more than the breakup, because I can understand he didn't love me - let's say you can't control your heart and you sometimes make mistakes. But how he treats me now is a conscious decision, and just shows that he doesn't care at all. Then why the hell did he ask me to be his friend? I guess just to feel less guilty for what he did. So as you can see... I believed a friendship could work... but for me, it doesn't work. Maybe it's something wrong with me, maybe I just expect too much. But when I call someone a friend, I don't ignore them. I give all myself, and I expect something in return, too. And I figured out some men only bother to give you anything and make any effort as long as they still believe in the possibility of going to bed with you. Once that's gone, they don't bother to think about you even for a fraction of a second. Having said that, I hope you'll find peace with your ex, I know how difficult it is... I still care and it still hurts, and I didn't find the peace yet. I still have days when I miss him like crazy, when I'd like to talk to him, hear his voice... and days when I hate him. And days when I wonder what I did wrong... So I perfectly know the hell you're going through now :( Big hugs PF! I seriously hate men; they just do too much harm. They should be kept in cages like dangerous animals, and fed only when they deserve it. I don't think I'll be able to trust any man ever again. They are all fucking liars! I regret I'm not a lesbian, I wish I could just be with another girl - women have way more empathy (men don't even know what this word means), they know your needs because they need the same, and they are givers, thinking about the other person. Not just about what they have in their pants. If a lesbian fell in love with me... I'd seriously consider it! :) My job.. Sorry I didn't send you a postcard from Seattle, but I actually spent only one night there and then kept driving around, so didn't have an opportunity to send postacrds :( But I got the job, and I'll be moving to the States in the next 6-8 weeks! So you'll get your postcard from the USA! :) Right now I'm still going through my visa process (pain in the ass), but after that's finished, I'll start packing suitcases. Hope you'll visit me in Seattle one day! :-) Lots & lots of hugs baby! xxx Agata

Agata September 25 at 6:22pm

PS. He wasn't worth you.. if his mom is more important to him than you, just imagine what a life you'd have with him. If his parents are so narrow-minded, chances are, he's quite narrow-minded too, if he allows them to make decisions for him. Or maybe it was just an excellent excuse for him.. Let him grow up..

PF September 25 at 10:46pm

Thats Fantastic News!!!! I wish I could get a job and move out ofmy country!! I do wish!! It's star of happy times for you and I will look forward to a postcard from you:) It's getting depressing to even try and date here,Men run the moment they know I have a history and my parents are also divorced. It's very depressing to explain your history and be reassured that it doesnt matter only to be dumped later on because it did matter to the parents! He felt we would never be happy because his mother is a stubborn person and not the kinds who back away and will end up in fights and then He is also controlling and I am the sort who needs a little space which doesn?t mean I am being dishonest or a liar and hiding stuff. It's sadly bugging to see such imbeciles instead of men!! I agree I Wish I were a Lesbian now I would also have to consider that avenue.. but in India though now same sex relationship is legal but it?s till not acceptable. Too many social prejudices and boundaries to let a person live and breathe! Here if you are to be happy then you have to conform if you don?t then you will always be unhappy because people will give you hell. You are right all men are scum and not worthy of any woman.. *hugs* I have been controlling my feelings around mum because I can?t let her see me this upset.. It?s very claustrophobic at the moment... I have an extended weekend and I have to do my best to act normal plus I am meeting him also because we have to attend this office party and he is driving me down as I don?t drive. He calls and says it?s difficult for him and he understands what I am going through.. All the while my mind is screaming why do we have to go through with this? Why can he not stand up and grow up? But I know We agreed to be friends and so I will act normal.. as if it doesn?t matter. Hugs back!! Wish you all the luck in the new job and country!! Take care PF