Brother

I dont know where to begin.

There are so many problems. Problems that I alone cannot deal with.

Financial issues being the most important becayse each month by the time its even 10th I am left with somewhere near 200 rupees to pay for the remaining days.

I am sick of borrowing money each month. I have close to 20,000 rupees which i need to repay because i have borrowed after I have paid Pune rent and delhi rent and bills and have nothing left to even buy food for myself.

There were days I ate biscuits and bread because that was what my landlady had and i ate it 'cause she offered without knowing that i actually am not eating.

If i had some help from you it would have been different.

I dont know what your expenses are ,i know probably 3000 go into the house misc payments and then 3000 for petrol and then your bills.

But seriously I would have appreciated some financial aid.

Now incase you move to Dar- es- salaam or move mum here i am again left to fend for money here to get a house .

40,000 is what will easily go here to get a place easily and then the other expeses like food.

You have been dealing with your issues in life.

I have problems too.. i may have a job in pune ,i may not. That is not decided but whatever the outcome if mum has to live with me I need to save some money each month and right now I have none. This month has been better I have 500 rupees in my account.

If i continue to pay for everything i will not be able to save even 100 rupess and my travels dont save me one lakh. I pay for my accomodation and transportation and food there too and am hardly left with money .

I am not exactly leading a lavish lifestyle.. I dont go out, i dont drink i dont do anything.

I sit in my room during weekends because going out needs money and I have none to spare.

What will happen if we continue to live like this?

You dont like mum because you feel she is being a pain to deal with..

Well you had a baby with a woman and you expect mum to give you a pat on the back? Reality is that no mother will..

Things happend and you cant change it but dont for all your life go on blaming anyone for things which didnt work out.

Now you wish to take responsibility of your actions? take responsibility of the house you live in. Help mum with chores be an active part of house.

Each day she cries and cries.. is that why you got her to live with us? to make her cry more?

She forgave so many of our mistakes and we cant make adjustments to her's?

She is old now and not as strong as she used to be.

Did you know that she uses the money she gets from (an Uncle) to pay for house groceries ?

It is easy to blame very easy.

I can blame a thousand people too..

But the truth is we dont have any financial aid , no rich relative who will donate. To make the house run we need to share equal expeses.

I am tired of looking at my empty bank account.

Changing Jobs will get us more money but if we continue the same trend, it will be useless.

I am frankly tired and ready to give it all up.

I would love to have mum fuss over me because i am heart broken and instead she still tries to sheild you.She always has and always will.

You need to decide if you want to start taking respnsibility and be an active member of the family or continue blaming us for everything which went wrong in your life and drown your sorrows and ignore the only people who are there to support you until its too late.

and His reply

HI,

What to say!

Well, I am nt gonna put money where there is no Family..

My Baby..Was no mistake..(WOULD LIKE HIS MENTION NO WHERE ....EVER)If we talk abt support..I took none and want none..

U need money..Ask..I will arrange..You get ur act together..I did nt opt fr the shit u are now because of ur past..

Have been supportive of u and all forever..

I am nt an active house guy as i have decided to live my life now..or try..12 hrs i spent at wrk..8 sleepn(if lucky)

As it goes: If we dont have a solution..Lets nt be problem either..

When we give up this house..WE will have around 15 K with u..

If u come here..we will take 2 1bhk's...

You cant blame me for Paying 2 rents..If i was in ur place..I would have asked for relocation perks frm the company..If they couldnt..I would have opted otherwise..

U decide..We have have such absurd conversations over and over..